When you have a jealous girlfriend it can really drive a big fuck off wedge between you both. You can’t visit your friends, go shopping for pumpkins or go riding on your pink horse without getting ninety-one texts per hour from your other half because she thinks your kissing other girls. And all the assurance in the universe won’t stop her thinking that.
The thing is, the jealously won’t be about you. She will be as insecure as one of those inside out cats in a fur shop. And unless you’re licking strawberry jam off a girl’s tits in front of her then you can’t stop acting like yourself either. Well maybe don’t tell her the things you’d like to do to your hot boss with a bottle of lube but apart from that. Talking, smiling and hugging other girls aren’t things you should stop doing.
Getting to the bottom of her trust issues would be your first step. If she once walked in on a girlfriend straddling the local lollypop lady wearing a tin foil thong then she may feel that every girlfriend she has will eventually cheat on her. Or it may go way back when and rolling in the deep deeper where her father might have cheated on her mother or something Jeremy Kyle like that. If you know why she feels like throwing bricks at any girl who comes near you then you may be able to take baby steps to solve the problem.
Take notice of jokes being made about a certain person. If for example, the second you walk through the door your girlfriend says ‘How was Charlene today? Was she wearing that see through top again to show her tits off to you? She so loves herself that one. Only kidding she’s lovely. I love her. But maybe she loves you? Lol. Rofl.’ Then maybe, just maybe, she might be feeling insecure about that particular person. ‘Her tits are great,’ is not the right answer to that by the way. But people never learn.
Sometimes a partner is jealous because you’re spending too much time with other people and not enough with them. This is easier to handle as they trust you and don’t think you’re out sharing lemon meringue with a street walker. This can be resolved by including your girlfriend in your barn dance activites, scheduling time together for a bath with rose petals and vaseline or simply just texting them when you’re out to show that you’re missing them.
Sometimes there just isn’t a reason for jealously and it can happen at any time. If there is no source or cause of it then maybe have one of those sit-down-and-think-moments about whether you actually want to be with this person. The jealously won’t stop, but she may be able to keep it under control and learn to trust you. But she may not. And you may have a life of falling out with friends, changing who you are and having cats hurled at you in rages.