Cheating in the twenty first centuary. As the modern relationships emerge and with people saying that romance is dead (I do NOT agree with this), when do the txs to another girl, the comments on her photos on Facebook and the retweeting of everything she say cross into the line into cheating.
What even is cheating? On the Lword episode when they discuss it round the campfire, Tasha thinks that thinking is cheating. Well, even if a select few think this I doubt not one of them hasn’t had a fantasy about another woman. Maybe a sexy-kissable-gorgeous-cladily-dressed celebrity by the name of Katherine Moenig. Just saying.
If you’re not officially together does cheating even exist? If you’re just casually seeing each other or ‘dating’ as they do on the other side of the world what happens then. Maybe when one thinks it’s all going good while the other is sending naked-posed-in-a-gymnastic-way photos to twenty-two other women.
To me (I know I’ll probably get abuse for this) but kissing isn’t cheating. If you’re doing the whole spin-the-bottle thing or it’s a stupid drunken kiss then I don’t really see it as betraying your girlfriend. If it’s a kiss with the intent to go further then obviously that’s a different story. Or if you come across your girlfriend naked covered in white body chocolate with another girl holding some sort of sex toy and they’re ONLY kissing, I doubt that would be OK either.
But then you have the Open relationship side of it to. Lesbians who invite other lesbians into their homes and sleep away. I think you have to have such a strong personality for this happen and since you’re doing the same, you can’t be the green eyed jealous monster. It has to be an equal thing and solidly-written-down-in-crayon rules of what they can do.
Sometimes if your partner has a high sex drive and you just don’t would it not be better for them to have meaningless one nights with other probably-less-attractive folks if you can have everything else that the relationship has to offer. This had split opinions in the people I questioned as some said they understood it while others gave me a look of utter horror like I had just asked them to give me a dead baby served on toast.
At the end of the lesbian day, I think it depends on your agreement with the girl your with. If you and her have an agreement to only perform sex acts on other girls with balloons but everything else is off limits then so be it. If you think that once you’ve thought of another girl slightly undressed you should talk about your relationship options then that’s fine too. I think you should establish what you can and cannot do from tweeting to facebooking when you get together so that everyone has a clear view of where they stand.