Friday Sex Talk

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Dirty Talk

Just when you think you know pretty much everything there is to know about sex and your bedroom looks like you played supermarket sweep through Ann Summers, your girl throws that awkward curveball and whispers ‘talk dirty to me,’ in your ear. If this catches you off guard you can find yourself naked, mumbling ‘I’m going to umm put my umm fingers, my fingers inside your, umm, your ooh what do I call it, a, sorry, your vagina?’ or even worse, just shouting the word ‘sex’ over and over again because you don’t know what else to do.

Anything you say can sound dirty if you utter it in a certain way. Think of the voiceover on Masterchef. She says everything like she’s having a continuous orgasm and if she actually is that’s commitment right there. Even a phrase like ‘pasta salad with cucumber on top,’ can sound extremely filthy if said in a quiet breathy way. I mean I wouldn’t suggest you say that, it might kind of ruin the moment but you get my point. Even just breathing loudly can show that you’re enjoying what they’re doing.

If it’s too embarrassing to say certain things or you feel stupid then develop your own names for things. If she does something that you really like it then label it your favourite, or ask her to ‘do that thing’ because that could mean anything from touching you to covering you in cake mixture and licking it off. Don’t say ‘the usual’ though because that sounds like your ordering a pint with a side of oral sex.

There’s talking dirty and then there’s insulting someone. If your girl is sobbing in the middle of the bed, then refuses to talk to you for two weeks and makes you clean under the couch with your toothbrush then chances are you did it wrong. Separating the fantasy in the bedroom from the world outside it a very important bit. Also if one thing, like shouting out filthy hoe or referencing star trek and Finding Nemo worked for one girl, it may not work for another and she may be offended or think you’re weird.

Being part of a fantasy or planning out a storyline can help because you’re then talking as another person rather than you. You can be anything, a pirate, a princess, a penguin or something else that doesn’t begin with P. Go crazy.

Another thing to decide is to make sure you are both comfortable with. For instance, I don’t mind the word pussy. It’s inoffensive and a lot better than some of the other beef-curtains-pink-shell-fanny other words people use. But as I’ve mentioned before you might find that you say that, and your girlfriend might run screaming from the room.

The thing is to try things out. It might not even work for you. But for the love of God, do not use words that make you want to gag, like flaps, oozing or the word that makes-me-want-to-hurl-myself-off-a-cliff-rather-than-hear-it-again – ‘Moist,’ This will ruin the mood on so many levels you might not have sex again. Ever.

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10 thoughts on “Friday Sex Talk

    Polly said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:34 pm

    Referencing finding nemo! haa ‘just keep swimming just keep swimming,’ Weird girl :P

      Effi Mai responded:
      June 1, 2012 at 2:35 pm

      Ew that’s so much worse!

    CarlyBeth's Blog said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:34 pm


    Polly said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:36 pm

    AND I can’t belive you could even write the word ‘moist’ you nearly had an eppy when I said it other day! You hate that word!!

    James said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:37 pm

    This really made me laugh. So funny!

    Bella said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:37 pm

    Where you come up with these ideas I’ll never know! Dress up like penguins…. :O lol x

    katherine said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:51 pm

    The voiceover on master chef!! so true! Goooooddd blog =)

    TIM said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:51 pm

    Def gotta try the finding nemo thing….

    Jenny said:
    June 1, 2012 at 2:52 pm

    Grossss the word ‘moist’ such a disgusting word!

    sgarb said:
    June 1, 2012 at 9:47 pm

    Omg FLAPS. That just brought memories of my ex screaming back to me.

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